Woman Wednesday: Justine

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below. 


 

Q and A with Justine, Somerset County, New Jersey

People always ask me how I can afford to travel as much as I do at this age. Something I’d like others to know is that whatever you want to do is possible if you really want to make it happen. I make traveling and seeing the world a priority. This isn’t to say that I spend an extreme amount of money on it either. I budget it into my expenses just like groceries. I need to see the world. And while I love my job, I always feel a constant urge to know that the world and my life is bigger than sitting at a desk or on a train. It’s always worth it, and it is totally possible!”o

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I love my job and the field I am in! I am a book publicist so basically, I get to tell people how great certain books are and then organize events and book tours for authors. I have always loved books; this is absolutely my dream! I majored in creative writing and English, did a bunch of internships, got my master’s in English literature, and was hired at the last company I interned at! Now, I’m working at a company that works with a lot of books in translation that ranges in genre from thrillers to biographies and art books. I love being able to work on all different types of books and just talk about how amazing books are all day.

 

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Pictured: Justine in her element. As a book publicist, she loves reading books and helping authors.

 

Q: What is something valuable you’ve learned that you’d like others to know?

A: Sometimes you can give something everything you have and work your very hardest and fall short. It doesn’t mean that you failed. So much of adult life is about timing, working hard, and luck. At times, you can go every extra mile, outwork people around you, and still not succeed as quickly or as much as you would like. These shortcomings put things into perspective, and when you can look back on them and actually say, “I gave that everything I had,” then you know you did your very best. Just because the outcome may not be exactly in our favor, we have to take these experiences and use them to make us stronger for the next time. In short, life is not always fair, and you can’t let it break you! Learn from it, and don’t give up! 

 

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Pictured: Justine in front of the Eiffel Tower in Paris, France. 

 

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: I always liked to keep super busy when I was growing up. I loved shuttling between softball, soccer, basketball, piano, gymnastics, ballet, cross country, track, and any other summer camps or art classes I could weasel my way into. Looking back, I feel so sorry for my parents who had to drive me around everywhere, but I am also so thankful and grateful for them always encouraging me to try everything and practice everything I was doing. I learned about committing to something and following through from a young age, and I also learned how to be part of a team, which is something I think absolutely translates to adult life in work and relationships. Even growing up, I was obsessed with books! I remember being in second grade and spending every free second reading to win more personal pan pizzas from Pizza Hut’s Book It program. While pizza initially stimulated my infatuation with reading, I quickly knew that I just loved books! I still very fondly remember my first author event during a first-grade assembly where a children’s book author, Dan Gutman, came to visit us and gave us each a signed copy of his book. I spent all my allowance buying all his books and thought that him coming to visit us was just about the coolest experience ever. Now, I get to go to author events all the time!

 

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Pictured: Justine at the New Jersey Balloon Festival. 

 

A part of my story that I haven’t mentioned yet is my passion for traveling. I love taking vacations to countries that I haven’t been to yet and going on adventures. I do this at least twice a year. People always ask me how I can afford to do this at this age. Something I’d like others to know is that whatever you want to do is possible if you really want to make it happen. I look online on tons of different websites to find the most affordable flights and places to stay. I use my vacation days around small holidays to make the trips longer. I make traveling and seeing the world a priority. This isn’t to say that I spend an extreme amount of money on it either. I budget it into my expenses just like groceries. I need to see the world. And while I love my job, I always feel a constant urge to know that the world and my life is bigger than sitting at a desk or on a train. It’s always worth it, and it is totally possible!

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Pictured: Justine enjoying the water and beautiful views in Italia (Italy). 
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Q: What does feminism mean to you? 

A: To me, feminism means equality. I do not like being talked down to by men, being treated like I can’t do something as well as a man can, nor do I like being treated like I am a man’s property. However, to be honest, I’m not big on movements like the women’s march or large scale protests to assert feminism. I think that by showing the men you associate with that you are just as strong and smart(er) as they are, and asserting this belief into who you are is the best way to change the conversation. I think we need men to uplift women just as much as we need women to uplift women.

 

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Pictured: Justine and her significant other, Nick, traveling together in Iceland. 

 

I really think that the conversation about feminism needs to include men. I feel like there are two types of men: men who repress women and men who uplift women. The men who uplift women are able to do this because they are associated with strong women who are their equals. In my opinion, a great example of this is Barack and Michelle Obama. This may not be a popular opinion, but as much as I am rooting for women and “feminism,” I do think there is a lot of hypocrisy. I think that if a woman claims to be a “feminist,” she shouldn’t depend on her dad or her partner to do things like dealing with her car issues or squashing bugs. Once you get to this point, you can’t ignore other things that have become gender norms like men proposing to women, because we all still want our dream proposal and diamond ring. So, it’s not black and white for sure.

 

As a side note, I also believe that “feminism” is the cop-out men have been waiting for, and in 10 years, I believe “stay at home dads” will be the norm. So it’s a conflicting subject, to say the least, and this is a very loaded question. I could go on and on!


I think that this quote from the book,
“How to be Parisian,” sums up how I feel about feminism: “Of course you can open a bottle of wine by yourself. But let him do it. That’s equality too.”

 

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Pictured: Justine taking a stroll in Reykjavik, Iceland. 

 

 

 

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Woman Wednesday: Laura

*Note: Woman Wednesday is a new part of our blog. Each Woman Wednesday post will feature a woman who would like to share information in the hopes of inspiring and motivating other women. Comments are welcome below.


 

Q and A with Laura, Morris County, New Jersey

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“I try to challenge myself daily, to develop different parts of who I am and who I want to be. I’m a work in progress. We’re all works in progress, and I think that’s a really beautiful thing.”

 

One of my father’s hobbies was photography when I was younger, and I couldn’t help but want to try it out myself. In my preteens, I taught myself how to use a digital camera and shortly after, got into film photography. This jump-started my passion for photography. When I won a photography competition against a bunch of older women, at the age of 13, I became hooked. That photo is actually one of my favorite non-portraits to this day—a bumble bee on top of a flower in a Vermont garden. Now, I primarily like taking portraits. There’s nothing like helping someone realize their beauty and potential through a camera lens. Capturing pure happiness is my favorite.


 

Q: What advice would you give to women?

A: Being yourself is a powerful thing.

 

Q: What does feminism mean to you?

A: Feminism to me points to the big picture of equality and the ability to express who you are confidently without judgments or negative forces upon you.

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Q: Why should more women be in business or male-dominated fields?

A: Businesses thrive when different views and perspectives are brought to the table. Many types of people, including women, are needed to contribute diverse valuable ideas and opinions. This is especially the case when women are the target market. Women know women best.

 

Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I knew I wanted to make a positive impact in others’ lives for a career, so I decided that studying psychology would be one way to start on that path. I got my BS in psychology and a minor in photography at a fairly small liberal arts school in central PA. I was lucky enough to study abroad due to my school requiring its students to have a cross-cultural experience as part of their core curriculum. I took the opportunity to go to the place I dreamed of going to since I was a little girl—Sydney, Australia! The beaches, lifestyle, and wildlife enticed me and it surely didn’t disappoint! It was an incredibly exciting and rewarding experience that I’ll never forget. I grew immensely during those 4.5 months by pushing myself out of my comfort zone as much as possible.

When I chose to study psychology in college, I knew that I would have the most job opportunities if I went to graduate school afterwards, so that’s exactly what I did! I ended up getting my Masters in Social Work, with a clinical concentration, from a large public institution the following academic year. During my master’s program, I was lucky enough to have two amazing field placements. First, I worked with high school students doing one-on-one therapy addressing various issues including anxiety, depression, family concerns, relationship issues, and whatever else the students brought to their session. I also co-facilitated a bereavement group with another counselor, which focused on all types of losses the students were experiencing.

After my first field placement, I became fascinated with the idea of working with college students and sought out opportunities to do so. I landed at a small liberal arts college near my hometown and their counseling center is where I fell in love with working with the young adult population.

What’s even more exciting is that this position eventually led to my current position as a learning support specialist. I now work with college students with disabilities that impact learning, primarily doing academic coaching. I meet with about 25 students for an hour per week to address any concerns they have that could impact their academic success. During these meetings, we go through all of their classes, review their grades, go over upcoming assignments, discuss learning strategies and skills that may be helpful, and sometimes do some work together. Another part of my job is co-facilitating an interpersonal skills group with the same population. The students decide what they want to talk about during that weekly group, but topics often include friendship or roommate issues, relationship concerns, academic concerns, family issues, and stress. It’s a space for students to discuss whatever is on their minds that week.

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Q: How did your younger years impact who you are today?

A: At 5’6” by the time I was ~10 years old, I was a bit physically awkward and wasn’t particularly comfortable with myself on the inside either. This was the case for all of elementary school and most of middle school. I considered myself a misfit who was trying way too hard to“fit in,” and I was compensating who I was in order to try to do so.

That all changed towards the end of 7th grade. I had had enough trying to be something I wasn’t—it was so clearly not paying off. A switch kind of went off in me that I needed to start doing things that were best for me, rather than what was going to make me “fit in.” This was when I started to find happiness in who I was and in my social life. I encourage all young girls to embrace who they truly are—there’s happiness in that.

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Q: What is something you want others to take away from your story?

A: The takeaway from my story is that doing what is best for you is the right path for you because you’re the expert on yourself. And when you work on yourself and you’re the best for yourself, you’re also the best for others. A perk of this is that people are attracted to others that are confident in themselves.

 

 

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Feminism

Feminism.

Is it a political view, a skin color, a gender?

No.

Feminism at its most simplest and truest form (the form it is meant to be) is the belief in the equal freedom and rights of women.

It follows the ideology that no matter what your genitalia may be, whether you’ve got a penis or vagina (or identify as male or female or other), you have the same rights as anyone else, and you receive equal treatment (or at least you should).

It is the belief that you should have the same freedom, rights, and respect as anyone. These rights should not be based on whether you were born male or female.

Do you believe in that? Is that something you would fight for? Then welcome, new advocate!

What is your opinion on feminism? We’d love to hear your perspective!

 

 

 

 

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