Woman Wednesday: Vivian


Q and A with Vivian from Bloomingdale, Illinois

“Never be afraid to try something new. If your heart’s not in it and pulls you toward something else, let it guide you. ”


Q: Tell us about yourself.

A: Hello! My name is Vivian, and I’m passionate about helping others. I am the owner of Xpressive Mocha Cafe, which was created because my husband and I wanted something natural to aid in the healing of our son’s eczema. After discovering shea butter and the wonderful benefits it offers, I began to mix the butter with essential oils to create something that was not only working but assisted in giving my son’s skin the extra moisture it needed.

After being asked what I was using, Xpressive Mocha was born. Me being a coffee lover as well, I knew the caffeine in coffee would just be a bonus so I added that as well as tea. Our online store was created in 2014. Since then, fast forward to 2022, we opened our storefront in Bloomingdale, Illinois.

At the Xpressive Mocha Cafe, our passion for skincare allows us to provide helpful information and products that help with the treatment of eczema, psoriasis, and other personal skincare issues. We provide skin consultations with clients to discuss their skincare concerns; educate clients on how to use skincare products and provide product demonstrations; we plan, organize, and participate in skincare events and shows; and give accessibility to order new skincare supplies and maintain relationships with our customers.

Our body butter doesn’t contain any preservatives. To use it, you simply put a small amount on your fingers and rub it into your skin, just as you would with lotion. Body butter is thicker than lotion, so you don’t need a lot to moisturize.

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: I’m from a small area in Wisconsin where everyone knows everyone and you are a community. I remember cooking with my mom daily and imagining I was making a meal for my imaginary family. I’m from a family of 10 children, so we did a lot of cooking. Cooking and experimenting have always been a passion of mine. When I had to take home economics in school, that just solidified that making things with my hands was a stress reliever for me. I was always a fan of chemistry class because it intrigued me, and my teacher was wonderful! I believe this is the same passion that drives me to create my plant-based products for men and women today.

Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?

A: Something valuable I would like to share with everyone is to never be afraid to try something new. If your heart’s not in it and pulls you toward something else, let it guide you. When I first started college, I truly believed I was going to be a lawyer and that it would be great. One computer class changed my life. It’s as if I had found my calling and switched career paths that day. I continued with the information technology world for years before having kids and discovering my newfound love. After moving from Wisconsin to Illinois, I became a computer science instructor and did that for seven years. Covid proved to me that time waits for no one and you have to go for your dreams now. Quitting and persuading myself to go after my dream of having a storefront was the best decision I could have made.

Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A:
Feminism to me means being true to yourself and taking advantage of all the opportunities that are available to help you. As well as having multiple sisters to confide in along the way when you feel you can’t.

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Woman Wednesday: Erin W.


Q and A with Erin W. from Raleigh, North Carolina

“Boundaries that aren’t enforced aren’t boundaries. ”


Q: What are you passionate about?

A: So many things! I love reading, and always have, which ultimately sort of accidentally spilled into writing books and building a business out of authoring. I’m a licensed professional counselor, and I still work a couple days a week as a counselor doing mental health therapy with clients, and then I write every day, in every spare moment from that! I write therapeutic children’s picture books like I Love You When You’re Angry and When a Donut Goes to Therapy under Erin Winters, and then on the other side of the spectrum, I write YA fantasy novels under E.A. Winters!

We’re a military family and our boys are two and almost four years old. I have a therapeutic deployment book launching on Kickstarter in May, and a new children’s book about a super cute lamb that’s based on Psalm 23 and will be illustrated this summer.

As for novels, book #2 in my dragons and assassins series launched just yesterday, and I’m finishing up writing book #4 now! Book #3 drops in April, and book #4 in June, so I stay pretty busy. I want to offer heartwarming, therapeutic children’s books promoting emotional learning and normalizing having conversations about feelings with kids on a variety of topics. I was surprised to find there were so few picture books doing this effectively, and blown away by the response I’ve gotten to my books. In regard to fantasy novels, they’re honestly escapism. Daring adventures, sword fights, dragons, assassins…what could be better, right? I also discovered they were cathartic for me, and phenomenal self-care, and I get grumpy if I haven’t written in a couple of days. I think almost accidentally, I discovered part of what I do is provide wholesome family-friendly fantasy that refuses to romanticize toxic relationships but shows realistic people overcoming enormous challenges. What hope there is in that! If they can do it, and be brave enough to face the monsters within along the way, surely so can we.

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: I was homeschooled all the way through. My parents did an incredible job, and I hope I do half as well. I respect them so much. My dad is a mechanical engineer and my mom has degrees in biochemistry and zoology. Critical thinking skills were always emphasized growing up. My mom currently teaches high school science classes to about 150 homeschoolers across a number of different classes. For extracurriculars, I was in a singing ensemble, did drama, and loved it. I also did piano but didn’t apply myself like I probably should have. My relationship with God has been the biggest factor in my life overall, and spine surgery at age 13 taught me a lot about not being in control. I also had the opportunity to serve others overseas on short-term trips a couple of times, and the experiences I gained impacted me in huge ways.

Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?

A: Therapeutically, something I say a lot is that boundaries that aren’t enforced aren’t boundaries. So, there you go. Personally, I’ve learned that being in control of life is an illusion. The only person in control is God, so without Him, we’re all sort of just swirling around in a storm-filled ocean, clinging to driftwood and hoping we hit land. And since having kids, there’s a lot I have left to learn, but I think taking care of yourself so that you have the mental space to pour out is really important. Being sacrificial, patient, and consistent is so important. And doing whatever I need to do to work on myself to get to a place where I can be that way needs to be a top priority for my own sanity as well as the best for my family!

Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A:
There are way too many definitions for this word. As a therapist, I see terms being tossed about all the time with no grounding, so it’s important to define our terms carefully, and unless there’s a reason to use an operational definition, the regular one does just fine. Google says this: “The advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes.” I think it’s apparent that men and women are equal. Equal in worth, intelligence, and having a broad scope of personalities, desires, and all the complexities within humanity. People should never be discriminated against by their age, gender, or race. It harms men and women alike when either gender is devalued, no matter which side is doing it.

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Woman Wednesday: Shivaun


Q and A with Shivaun from Kingston, Jamaica

“Learn to celebrate the small wins and enjoy the journey to the next goal.”


Q: What are you passionate about?

A: I am passionate about life, helping people, and walking in my God-given purpose. Which is to inspire and motivate others. Whether it is through spoken words, singing, writing songs, or writing a book.

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: My early years were interesting. I am the youngest of six brothers and sisters. People would say I am spoiled. I was not. I was brought up in a Christian home and a home filled with music. From listening to rock steady and reggae music to jazz to Ska to the gospel, and so much more. I also remember that I was always singing whether it was at church, school, or an event. For the most part, I had a close-knit family. Being the last one means I always tried to be assertive as I felt that I was never listened to. In high school and onward, I continued performing and I was the president of the drama club, I.S.C.F. I was also a leader in the student body. I was always a leader, always excited to help, learn new things, and get involved in any way I could. I have too many memorable experiences growing up to mention that have directly and indirectly shaped the woman I am today.

I am from Kingston, Jamaica. I am a proud Caribbean queen and a serial entrepreneur, singer, songwriter, and writer.

Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?

A: Something valuable that I hold close to my heart is to walk in your own purpose and focus on your journey because God’s timing for everyone is different. Also, learn to celebrate the small wins and enjoy the journey to the next goal.

Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A:
Feminism for me is simply giving recognition that is due to strong and powerful women regardless of where they are from, status, or color. It is not degrading or putting men aside as some may think.

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Woman Wednesday: Misty


Q and A with Misty from Washington State, USA

“I found that giving myself permission to shift as often as I need has been helpful beyond measure.”


Q: Tell us about yourself.

A: Hi! My name is Misty. I live in the eastern part of Washington State with my husband, Paul, and our two kids. I love being outdoors in warm weather, exploring and camping, spending time with family, and learning. My husband says I’m more of a professional student. I love to learn all about the human body, history, and fun facts. I have been a registered nurse for 10 years, a licensed massage therapist for 8 years, I taught a nursing assistant-certified program to high school juniors and seniors at a technical skills center for 4.5 years, and I’ve also completed multiple yoga + mindfulness teacher trainings. Currently, I am self-employed in a brick-and-mortar wellness clinic. I offer massage therapy, red light therapy, an infrared sauna, whole-body vibration sessions, wellness coaching, and more. I love teaching and helping people better care for their whole selves instead of parts of themselves. I believe we have to look at the whole picture of a person when they are in a state of dis-ease and not just the part of their body that is alarming. I am finding so much joy in the coaching world that I am taking my coaching virtually and have been working to establish myself for several months now.

Several years ago, I was in a fatality car accident with a drunk driver, and several of my family members and I were lucky enough to be able to walk away with little physical damage. During my healing journey, which included mental health therapy, physical therapy, massage therapy, and chiropractic care, I found yoga and meditation by happenstance. What I learned in the studio sessions blew my mind and I wanted to know more—my body began to feel alive again. I joined a yoga teacher training course and just before completing my hours, COVID-19 started.

Although I finished the hours sometime later, I opted to learn additional styles of yoga and meditation virtually because I craved more knowledge. Through these programs, I learned even more about just how connected the systems of the body are. After I was able to reopen my business after the initial shutdown during COVID, I saw how important this work would be for so many that I would be coming in contact with. At this time, I felt like I needed more of a coaching foundation so took the course work through the International Nurse Coach Association (INCA). Blending all these aspects of nursing, coaching, yoga, mindset, and massage has been pivotal in my business and has brought a new passion to the style of coaching and education I offer. I am currently working on monthly masterclasses and meditations in my Facebook community, releasing several recorded meditations through my coursework platform, and a couple small group sessions focusing on specific topics. The first small group that was released this month is called The Nourished Soul, where I teach techniques on how to calm the nervous system, begin to gently move the body with yoga, introduce students to guided journaling and meditations, and how to breathe during stressful situations. More small groups are in the works!

Q: What were your younger years like?

A:   I still live in the same town in which I was raised. Growing up my family was tight-knit—holidays, camping trips, going to each other’s sports games or tournaments. I loved playing volleyball, and I enjoyed the team experience. I loved the thought of being a teacher; I had some great influential teachers. I planned on going to college to get my master’s in education but that didn’t happen. My now husband and I found out we were expecting a boy. Our son was stillborn and revived, airlifted to a neonatal intensive care unit, and I was exposed to several career options in healthcare during this time. A year after bringing him home I returned to school to obtain my nursing degree. Throughout my years as a nurse, I was able to pivot into different areas, including occupational health, education, and holistic wellness to fit not only the needs of my growing family but my interests and passions as well. As life progressed, I learned I needed more tools in my toolbox and gained additional education with the support of my family. Between my childhood experiences, my early adult years, and to current I learned to always strive for the best, have fun along the way, and look for ways I can improve how I help others.

Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?

A: You can always pivot (or start over). With anything: Career change. Meal plan. Mindset. Educational experience. Whatever you are needing in your life. I found that giving myself permission to shift as often as I need has been helpful beyond measure and I hope that you find that to be true too as you employ it in your daily living.

Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A:
To me, feminism is a state of being, soulful, and optimally using our strengths to lift each other up for the greater good.

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Woman Wednesday: Dawna


Q and A with Dawna from La Grande, Oregon, USA 



“You will thank yourself in the future for being courageous now.”


Q: What are you passionate about? 

A: I love helping those around me reach their goals and building up their confidence through quality portraiture and marketing photography. Through the years, I have watched families, businesses, and individuals grow, and this always brings a smile to my face. I’ve met various people from all walks of life; some have even become my personal friends. I have a wide variety of interests, including nature, cooking, and soap-making with my daughter. Aspects of the financial and budgeting world also intrigue me. I am currently aspiring to couple my passion for finances with my current business. 

Q: What were your younger years like?

A: Early in my childhood, I lived in Seattle, WA, before moving to the mountains of Eastern Oregon. I was raised with a strong work ethic and the attitude of “If someone else can do it, I can too.” My need to learn the newest thing or take on the next adventure never let me sit still for long. My friends and I spent countless hours climbing the hillsides where I grew up and laughing until we couldn’t breathe; it is no surprise that I am still close with them in my 30s. I was involved in many sports and clubs, in which we learned to lift others up, not put them down. Growing up in Girl Scouts, I learned the basics of business and sales at a young age. My teenage years were filled with art classes and 4-H, which are still important aspects of who I am today.  

Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?

A: Making mistakes is part of life, but learning from them can make us unstoppable. There is no need to worry about your past or your upbringing; whenever you want, you can become a better version of yourself. Discomfort has been one barrier that I am grateful to have crossed. I promise it will pay off to abandon your comfort zone, face your fears of the unknown, and allow yourself to feel vulnerable in order to grow. You will thank yourself in the future for being courageous now. Always allow yourself to be the best possible version of yourself and don’t compromise your integrity to someone else’s opinion of you. We are all meant to shine bright. If someone else can do it, why not you? 

Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A:
As women, we have the freedom to take advantage of opportunities, knowing we are equally capable. Just as with anyone else, this includes the risk of falling flat on our faces, but it also includes the strength to get back up again. It’s a beautiful thing to be in control of our choices and aware of our own personal strengths. The principles of feminism should encompass every aspect of life and empower us to help other women around us succeed.

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