Q and A with Victoria from New Jersey, living in Denver, Colorado
“Sharing your story, not for you, but for those who may be touched by resonating with what you’ve gone through, experienced, and learned is a highly selfless act that I’m realizing more and more each day.”
Q: Tell us about yourself.
A: My passions include deep self-work [transformation, plant & animal medicine, microdosing, and shadow journaling], traveling, and immersing into cultures [traveled to/lived in 65+ countries], voraciously reading sci-fi/fantasy/historical fiction, sharing endless opinions about film, speaking on stages or facilitating workshops, putzing around with tarot and oracle cards. Currently, I’m working on simply building my business enough for myself to be a place where I can feel safe to consider thinking about starting a family. Standing on my own two feet as an entrepreneur is essential; I don’t need to make seven figures, but I want to have more than enough. With this in mind, I am spending a ton of time creating frameworks, processes, and systems as well as leaning into connecting with communities in person, collaborating with other creators, and learning how to trust that what is meant for me will come.
Q: What were your younger years like?
A: I’m an only child to a set of interracial parents, raised in a city burb of NY within NJ. I grew up in a super diverse city that was about 15 minutes from Manhattan; so learning to drive and ‘going out’ was often in the boroughs while I was a teen. I didn’t grow up close with my extended family, from a rift that began when my parents married due to familial/racial differences. My mom instilled an absolute love of travel in me, with my first overseas trip being to Istanbul at 4 months old! From then, I traveled internationally at least twice annually until I got to college; a level of privilege I had a hard time overcoming.
At 15, I had a freak accident that had me in the hospital for three days after an emergency surgery where I flatlined twice. I had the classic out-of-body experience and it’s commemorated on my body as a tattoo. That episode is something I am still working through, at 33, and simply didn’t realize how much it ended up insidiously directing my life; decisions I’d make, who I’d date, when or how I felt safe, and it caused me to tend toward inappropriate humor when bringing up difficult topics. It’s such an intangible thing, hard to quantify my progress, and it has absolutely been a defining line in the chapters of my life.
Q: What is something valuable you’d like others to know?
A: Sharing your story, not for you, but for those who may be touched by resonating with what you’ve gone through, experienced, and learned is a highly selfless act that I’m realizing more and more each day. Secondly, requesting support→actually explicitly asking for support from those who love you, is another act that can significantly alter your relationships to a place of vulnerability, love, and the connection that we all truly yearn for.
Q: What does feminism mean to you?
A: Feminism is women coming together in collaboration to keep the ladder up for every single one of us and hold the net below just in case one of us falls.
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